Boost your Happiness #Blogg100

#063 [LXIII]
Happiness – Willpower – Mediation [Do it Harder, faster and more intelligently]

I have been participating in Kelly McGonigal’s online course 28 days Boost your willpower. Today I came across this TED talk by Shawn Achor: The happy secret to better work thanks to @molbimien in here blog. So his advice in the end correlates very much with Kelly’s teaching and others that researches in happiness.

Do Random acts of kindness - Shawn Achor

Do Random acts of kindness – Shawn Achor

Harder, faster and more intelligently

Here is 5 tips from Shawn Achor on how to be happier and thus becoming more productive.

  • 3 things you are grateful of today. 20 days in a row
  • Journaling – Blogging
  • Exercise 
  • Mindful Mediation
  • Random acts of kindness

3 things you are grateful of today. 20 days in a row

Write down 3 things each day that you where grateful of. This is an exercise that I have done before after reading of it in Martin Seligman’s book Flourish. I will restart doing it “Today”. As their is no tomorrow. It’s always Today, Today and Today.

Journaling – Blogging

Writing down your ideas and hunches helps the brain thinking about them. As I discussed in my earlier episode #066 [LXVI] Chance favors the connected mind [Keep on blogging] blogging or making notes on a daily basis helps. Blog away! Find all tips under Journaling.

Exercise

Daily Exercise keep your thinking engine and happiness spinning on top. When sitting down all day I recommend getting up for a short exercise ever 4 hour like running up some stairs. Some people but not all have the genes that benefits from doing 3 minutes extremely high intensity taring [HIT] for 3 minutes.  See also my blogposts: Dance and Run in Stairs.

Mindful Mediation

Want more willpower and focus? Just doing a 5 minute Mindful meditation a day has a scientific proven effect of boosting your mind and willpower. Use the technique described below.

Random acts of kindness
Doing random acts of Kindness will make you feel better as well as making the receiver more likely to pay it forward. Simon Sinek explains this very well in his speech here: #088 [LXXXVIII] I want you to become a better version of you.

More or less?

According to Barry Schwarts we must also limit the number of choice we make. So that we don’t get stuck in Analysis Paralysis. AP [Analysis Paralysis] is something that all we Boardgamers are very familiar with. Games are just that. Simulation of choice and consequence. I for one, think that there are Free Will in games as well as in life. We must not get stuck on our choices. And even if we regret our choices. We must learn that like in a game we can’t redo our choices. Life is Permanent.

“Regret does not remind us we did badly. It remind us we could do better.” — Kathyrn Schulz

A Five-Minute Meditation

This is from Kelly McGonigal’s online course 28 days Boost your willpower.

Whenever you’re trying to make a change in your life, a daily meditation practice can be a positive ally. But that doesn’t mean you have to go buy a cushion, sign up for training, or dedicate 45 minutes each day to some strict, idealized discipline. Keep it easy, and keep it light. You can reap serious benefits from this simple, five-minute practice:

1. Sit still and stay put. You don’t have to be on a cushion or mat; just find a spot where you can sit comfortably for five minutes.

2. Turn your attention to the breath. For a minute or two, think to yourself “inhale” with every inhalation, “exhale” with every exhalation.

3. Notice how it feels to breathe, and feel the mind wander. After a minute or two, drop the labels, and just notice how it feels in the body to breathe. You might feel it in the nose, in the belly, or in the throat. If your mind wanders—which it will!—just keep calm and return to the sensation of the breath.

That’s it. This micro-meditation is an incredibly powerful willpower booster—the practice of returning attention again and again to the breath kicks the prefrontal cortex (the decision-making center of the brain) into high gear and quiets the stress and craving centers of your brain. Every time you bring your attention away from a wandering thought and back to the breath, you strengthen self-awareness and boost self-control.

@LordSillion

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How you can affect others better #Blogg100

#072 [LXXII]
Just smile and wave [Utility or Curiosity]

Just smile and wave boys. Smile and wave!

Just smile and wave boys. Smile and wave!

Check out all my Posts on Daniel Pink for the complete analysis of his talk and book 🙂

Also Check out all 3 videos from Simon Sinek in my blog.

2 tips for the day is listen to this Interview with Daniel Pink: Why We’re All in Sales. I got the tip from NiclasJ. You can also find it as a podcast if you search for: HBR Ideacast. You can also here him live on The RSA next Tuesday on The Surprising Truth About Moving Others. If you want to tweet him a live question 🙂

Utility or Curiosity

In the end he tells what 2 email subjects that works best. Kind of like a pitch. They are:
1. Utility
2. Curiosity

And you can’t mix them. Does it fall into what Simon Sinek says about “Start with why“? Does this mean I should start with why this will make you do something better?

Also TED on Facebook tipped of 9 great speeches about happiness. Check out the last one about smiling!

Remember to smile. Just smile and wave!

Michael Sillion [LordSillion]

I want you to become a better version of you #Blogg100

#088 [LXXXVIII]
Do Small Things every day to Build Relationships. [Build Trust over Time]

Why?

I want you to become a better person and build better relationships where ever you go. Here is what you can do.

Start do small things for others. You will start building confidence, you feel good and over time you finally build trust.

“In the military they give medals to people who are willing to sacrifice themself so that others may gain.
In business, we give bonuses to those who are willing to sacrifice others so that we may gain. We’ve got it backwards” — Simon Sinek

SimonSinek2

The inspiration today comes from a speech by Simon Sinek. I will come back to many parts of this later but you can watch it here or you can download the MP3 file that I have extracted from it. Also check out Simon’s blog about the his preaching and and the background for the speech: Purpose Can Not Be Rationalized

Here are some help and inspiration for you on what to do:

Jeff Haden put together a list of 10 things you can say and do each day. You do this for the benefit of yourself and it will also help others in their day. Over time it builds trust.

10 Things Extraordinary People Say Every Day

Want to make a huge difference in someone’s life? Here are things you should say every day to your employees, colleagues, family members, friends, and everyone you care about:

1. “Here’s what I’m thinking”

You’re in charge, but that doesn’t mean you’re smarter, savvier, or more insightful than everyone else. Back up your statements and decisions. Give reasons. Justify with logic, not with position or authority.

Though taking the time to explain your decisions opens those decisions up to discussion or criticism, it also opens up your decisions to improvement.

Authority can make you “right,” but collaboration makes everyone right–and makes everyone pull together.

2. “I was wrong”

I once came up with what I thought was an awesome plan to improve overall productivity by moving a crew to a different shift on an open production line. The inconvenience to the crew was considerable, but the payoff seemed worth it. On paper, it was perfect.

In practice, it wasn’t.

So, a few weeks later, I met with the crew and said, “I know you didn’t think this would work, and you were right. I was wrong. Let’s move you back to your original shift.”

I felt terrible. I felt stupid. I was sure I’d lost any respect they had for me.

It turns out I was wrong about that, too. Later one employee said, “I didn’t really know you, but the fact you were willing to admit you were wrong told me everything I needed to know.”

When you’re wrong, say you’re wrong. You won’t lose respect–you’ll gain it.

3. “That was awesome.”

No one gets enough praise. No one. Pick someone–pick anyone–who does or did something well and say, “Wow, that was great how you…”

And feel free to go back in time. Saying “Earlier, I was thinking about how you handled that employee issue last month…” can make just as positive an impact today as it would have then. (It could even make a bigger impact, because it shows you still remember what happened last month, and you still think about it.)

Praise is a gift that costs the giver nothing but is priceless to the recipient. Start praising. The people around you will love you for it–and you’ll like yourself a little better, too.

4. “You’re welcome”

Think about a time you gave a gift and the recipient seemed uncomfortable or awkward. Their reaction took away a little of the fun for you, right?

The same thing can happen when you are thanked or complimented or praised. Don’t spoil the moment or the fun for the other person. The spotlight may make you feel uneasy or insecure, but all you have to do is make eye contact and say, “Thank you.” Or make eye contact and say, “You’re welcome. I was glad to do it.”

Don’t let thanks, congratulations, or praise be all about you. Make it about the other person, too.

5.”Can you help me?”

When you need help, regardless of the type of help you need or the person you need it from, just say, sincerely and humbly, “Can you help me?”

I promise you’ll get help. And in the process you’ll show vulnerability, respect, and a willingness to listen–which, by the way, are all qualities of a great leader.

And are all qualities of a great friend.

6. “I’m sorry.”

We all make mistakes, so we all have things we need to apologize for: words, actions, omissions, failing to step up, step in, show support…

Say you’re sorry.

But never follow an apology with a disclaimer like “But I was really mad, because…” or “But I did think you were…” or any statement that in any way places even the smallest amount of blame back on the other person.

Say you’re sorry, say why you’re sorry, and take all the blame. No less. No more.

Then you both get to make the freshest of fresh starts.

7. “Can you show me?”

Advice is temporary; knowledge is forever. Knowing what to do helps, but knowing how or why to do it means everything.

When you ask to be taught or shown, several things happen: You implicitly show you respect the person giving the advice; you show you trust his or her experience, skill, and insight; and you get to better assess the value of the advice.

Don’t just ask for input. Ask to be taught or trained or shown.

Then you both win.

8. “Let me give you a hand”

Many people see asking for help as a sign of weakness. So, many people hesitate to ask for help.

But everyone needs help.

Don’t just say, “Is there anything I can help you with?” Most people will give you a version of the reflexive “No, I’m just looking” reply to sales clerks and say, “No, I’m all right.”

Be specific. Find something you can help with. Say “I’ve got a few minutes. Can I help you finish that?” Offer in a way that feels collaborative, not patronizing or gratuitous. Model the behavior you want your employees to display.

Then actually roll up your sleeves and help.

9. “I love you”

No, not at work, but everywhere you mean it–and every time you feel it.

10. Nothing

Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. If you’re upset, frustrated, or angry, stay quiet. You may think venting will make you feel better, but it never does.

That’s especially true where your employees are concerned. Results come and go, but feelings are forever. Criticize an employee in a group setting and it will seem like he eventually got over it, but inside, he never will.

Before you speak, spend more time considering how employees will think and feel than you do evaluating whether the decision makes objective sense. You can easily recover from a mistake made because of faulty data or inaccurate projections.

You’ll never recover from the damage you inflict on an employee’s self-esteem.

Be quiet until you know exactly what to say–and exactly what affect your words will have.

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]

We must trust #Blogg100

#089 [IXC]
Varför litar du på mig? [Why do you trust me?]

Jag sitter och jobbar på mitt Pecha Kucha tal. Men jag saknar något…

Du saknas!

Min åhörare, min publik. Jag gör ju detta för dig.  Hur ska jag få in detta i mitt tal. Det handlar ju om varför vi gör saker för varandra. Varför gör jag något för dig och varför gör du något för mig?

För att vi litar på varandra. Vi är ju i samma Tribe 🙂

Jag är ju på detta mission för att jag tror på en bättre värld. Där vi gör saker tillsammans för varandra. Nu när det äntligen är möjligt. Att samarbeta, koordinera och träffa varandra på ett helt nytt sätt. Ett nytt samhälle med en ny typ av kommunikation som binder samman hela världen men ändå behåller alla små lokala grupper.

Simon Sinek inspirerar

SimonSinek

Tack till @Liffeman för att han tipsade mig om hans största inspiration nämligen Simon Sinek. Han pratar om “Why” i sitt TED Talk. Jag sökte runt lite och hittade ett annat tal han ger om varför vi gör saker för varandra. Vi litar på varandra. Det är då det händer. We must trust each other!

Ta och se det! Finns längst ner ->

WebCoast für Alle!

Jag har nyss bokat in mig på WebCoast i år igen. Feffe Kaufmann skriver bra om WebCoast här. När man kommer dit får man genast den där känslan som inte får när man går på en vanligt konferens. Att vi alla är samma Tribe och vi litar på varandra från början. Man kan börja prat direkt med vem som helst där. We get it!

Känslan är lika härlig som på Sweden Social Media Camp.

Det är så jag vill att det ska vara på vår Unconference också. Temat är en Kreativ Hållbar Framtid.

Jag tror på en hållbar framtid där vi kan leva tillsammans och lösa alla dom otaliga problem som kommer att dyka upp. Med hjälp av samarbete och kommunikation på ett kreativt sätt.

Det är er som tror på samma sak som mig, som jag vill samla på en gemensam mötesplats där vi kan prata om det!

@LordSillion


Simon Sinek: If You Don’t Understand People, You Don’t Understand Business