Lies, Truth and Self-Narration

We all do it! Tell Stories. And almost every one of them we tell to ourself. It is how consciousness works. It’s a story of yourself. And your conscious self can help self-direct it. It’s called making choices. Some say that we don’t have free will. I think they are defining it wrong. We do choices all the time. All based on the previous stories we have stored in our brain. What is a lie then? It’s just a story. Most of the time we can’t tell if it’s “true”. To the brain all things are stories. A conscious lie is when we have two parallel stories of what took place and chooses to tell the other. So how often do you direct your own stories?

How good are you at lying to yourself? [Become a better Self-Narrator!]

Think about for 10 seconds before you read on.

Dan Ariely - Why We Lie

Dan Ariely – Why We Lie

So I have been listening to a lot of different “Stories” on Lying and Self-Narration. For a good start I recommend listening to TED Radio hour: Why We Lie with people like Dan Ariely and Michael Shermer.

“Can’t have champagne wishes without caviar dreams.” – Nolan Ross

As you read this you are watching a movie. It’s a very real movie triggering all of your senses. It is called Consciousness. It’s made up from a very complex source of external and internal sensory inputs, simulations, memories and stories. In order for it all to come together, The Director in your mind, has to cut many corners and throw away lots of material. The Director is a very good liar, or Storyteller as we would like to call it. This is in fact “You” lying to yourself. It all makes sense. This Story, that is you. Sometimes it’s just not “The Truth”. Because for the Brain that is a mythological concept.

“Character Is A Vital Lie” – Ernest Becker

As you interact with the outside world, you are constantly using this story to further you, on your journey through life. Your brain is full of filters that makes everything you experience a very unique experience just for you. Keep that in mind when you interact with others and share your story.

You Always Believe What You Tell Yourself

Belief Or Make Belief

Belief Or Make Belief

When you think of it, this is our greatest gift. Something that should be cherished. It’s also a good skill to have. It’s a form of Masquerade and a Roleplaying Game. You have many internal roles and parts of your brain that blends into a mix that is you and gives rise to your self illusion. With this in mind let’s get better at it. If you want to Change people. Don’t tell them what to do. Tell them a Story that they can internalize and tell to themselves. That can become part of their story.

The Self is a house of Cards – Jason Silva

Life is a Game. Let’s Play Tonight!

Let’s play a little game. I want you to try and tell your story to others and have them tell your story back to you. How does that feel? Now do the same for them. Ask them how does that feel. To to reflect together on how your own story differs from others story about you.

We can all need a little help in the Narration of our own lives. Start spending time with people who are good at Narrating their own life. Then you will become better at narrating your own. We can all Become Gurus of Our Own Life as Jonathan Fields put it. Just remember:

Even if you are alone in your own mind, you are never alone outside of it. 

Become a better Self-Narrator!

@LordSillion 
Holistic Thinking Ninja

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The Great Masquerade [We Must Change the Game!]

This is part of my series of The Game of Life: The Great Masquerade. Where I share my thoughts about how we can change all the “Games” we are playing in our societies. How can we make the Games more co-op. And what defines that you “Win” in life. Please feel free to share your thoughts.

Masquerade Revange

Masquerade in Revenge

What masks are you wearing? [Know thyself]

Have been seeing the Masquerade episode of Revenge tonight. It’s a very Meta since Amanda Clark are in fact playing a role herself all the time Masquerading as Emily Thorne.

All too often, we mask the truth in artifice, concealing ourselves for fear of losing the ones we love or prolonging a deception for those we wish to expose. We hide behind that which brings us comfort from pain and sadness or use it to repel a truth too devastating to accept. — Emily Thorne

When thinking of yesterdays post about Empathy I directly connect today’s post to the roleplaying part. What roles do we play in all social situations? Even if “You” aren’t doing anything your subconscious brain is full at work with fitting you in to your current tribe. Some are bad and others are very good at this Social Game that our brains play for or with us. Vanity is born into us.

Let the Masquerade commence [Who are you playing?]

They say that Life is defined by the roles we play. And if you joined us this hallowed evening, it can only mean you’ve played them well.
So Tonight leave your identities at the door, let our spirits inspire yours and may your ornate facades lead you to intrigue.
Let the Masquerade commence — Victoria Grayson

Even if you are trying to project your true self on the world you are still perceived through filters of reality when in contact with other persons.  You can never leave The Matrix.

Every human being has the responsibility to find the truth for one selfRainn Wilson

But when living in The Matrix we all have the responsibility to find and know our True Self. When you know thyself it is much easier to project your own Residual Self Image. All your actions is a form of Storytelling you do to portray that image. And even your own brain is telling this story for you. Start listening to what really is happening. Then you can get a chance of help the direction of your own actions. But remember that you only project yourself through the interfaces of your own body. Here modern media like the written langue and recently recorded audio and video has greatly increased our way to communicate our true self into the world. But it is still only a crude image.

There are countless ingredients that make up the human body and mind.
Like all the components that make up me as an individual with my own personality.
Sure, I have a face and voice to distinguish myself from others.
But my thoughts and memories are unique only to me.
And I carry a sense of my own destiny.
Each of those things are just a small part of it.
I collect information to use in my own way
All of that blends to create a mixture that forms me and gives rise to my conscience.
I feel confined, only free to expand myself within boundaries. — Major Motoko Kusanagi

When you play the Game of Social know your own masks that you put on in the Great Masquerade

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]

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Train your Empathizing skills #Blogg100

#030 [XXX]
The Empathy Revolution [Let us Reach out across Space & Time]

Know thyself to get along with others better

We are not the self-interested creature with selfish genes that many have lead us to believe. According to the latest science we are all born highly emphatic. And it’s a skill that we can train all our life. Get to know your inner self to see what masks you are wearing and how you play the Great Masquerade.

RomanKrznaric

I stumbled upon a RSA Animate that I have missed from last years RSA events. RSA Animate – The Power of Outrospection. And the full audio Podcast. It’s with Roman Krznaric who talks about how we can get more Empathy in our society. Here it is at the RSA: The Six Habits of Highly Empathic People

Train your Empathizing skills

Yes! It is possible and you should do some of this exercises every week. Also check out this Article about it: Six Habits of Highly Empathic People.

Habit 1: Cultivate curiosity about strangers

Highly emphatic people (HEPs) have an insatiable curiosity about strangers. Challenge yourself to have an interesting conversation each week with a stranger.

Habit 2: Challenge prejudices and discover commonalities

The fact is that as a Human being you have far more in common than not with every other human being on the planet. Challenge your prejudices by searching for what you share with other people rather than what differs between you. Talk to the Elephant and find Common Ground. Like I discuss in my blog Why are we so Groupish?

Habit 3: Get into “extreme sport” of experimental empathy

Try living another persons life. Try Live Action Role Playing (LARP) as another person that are living in another culture or in a different time. Go live in a village in a different country. Or do a “God Swap” if you are religious.

This is the most rewarding but also the hardest way to train to become a HEP. Here we can also roleplay meeting our own future generations and explain our actions to them. Or just maybe Future ME will have something to say about my own actions today. Go ahead. Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself.

“Hello Future Me! What will I think of my actions today?”

Hello Future Me!

Hello Future Me!

Roman Krznaric thinks we should get a Empathy Museum where you can go and have empathy experiences. What is it like to work under sweatshop conditions or in a plantation where they grow our food?

Habit 4: Practice the art of conversation

We must practice and listen to what is really going on emotionally in another persons life. Then we open up and exposes our own personal feelings. Removing our masks. I did this at my latest session in during WebCoast. See it here in Swedish

Habit 5: Inspire mass action and social change

We need make an emphatic mass-change to our whole society. One way to do this is to start with out children. We need to teach them empathy. Talk to them about morality and what consequences our actions and behavior has on others.

Empathy should be at the heart of our Social, Economic and Political decisions. Funny enough this correlates to the three games I came up with in my Game of Life blog. We must change this 3 global games so that “winning” in them means doing good.

Game of Social – Game of Money – Game of Power

Here we are still waiting to see what emerging effects Social Media and The Network Society can have. But if we are to believe thinkers like Don Tapscott it will bring about many exiting changes if we work hard and let it.

Habit 6: Develop an ambitious imagination. Become “Outrospective”

This is the Hardest Challenge of the all. To empathize with the “Enemy”. With those who think differently. We must stop Demonizing them and get under their skin instead. Especially those in Power. If we can understand how the leaders of worlds largest companies and our politicians are thinking we can more easily affect them and make them change course.

Here bureaucracy is a great roadblock to Empathy. And we must think of new ways to get around it.

Working good ethics into the core of companies modus operandi is essential making this world work in the long run. It has already started with companies that does Social Good and with Social Entrepreneurs.  But we have a long way to go still.

Do Good Shit! — Alex Bogusky

Teaching our children more Empathy [We can all get better] 

If we start early it will be much easier to be good at this skill. Although it is never to late for any of us.

We should be teaching this in every school all over the world. And we should be talking about it in every organization. Practice it on a weekly or daily basis. We must reach out across Space & Time!

What are our core values? And how should we reach them today and tomorrow?

VNV Nation – Space & Time

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]

Game of Life #Blogg100

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How do you play? [What is a win in your life?]

Life is a game our brain plays from cradle to cradle. Within that game there are many smaller games that we play along the way. Let’s find out more about how I think the game is played. I call the game: The Great Masquerade. What does it take to “Win” in this game and life. Please feel free to share your thoughts.

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Doing storytelling together [The way it has always been]

Tonight I had some of my closest friends over for dinner. But that wasn’t the main event for the evening. Later where where going to see the season 3 premier of Game of Thrones together. This event has been eagerly awaited by millions of fans all over the world. It has been promoted, discussed, hyped and analyzed. Much of it is made possible now thanks through the power of Social Media. It’s a fantastic new world we are living in already. Where the spread of ideas and discussion of them now transcends most old world barriers. And we are seeing just the beginnings of what we humans are capable of building together.

But what what of the actual event? As much as we now have started doing things together over social media there is matching for the experience of doing things together in the flesh world. Where we can smell “The pig shit” on each others. It’s was like we used to do it in the old-old world. It is a classic storytelling event around the campfire. We where all watching and cheering like children together. And after the story came to and end we instantly wanted more and started to discuss it.

dragons

Here be Dragons [Or what do you wish for?]

What is so fascinating about Game of Thrones? Here is my take on it. It uses classic storytelling of protagonists and antagonists. But just when you think you know the hero from the villain something happens that cast a shadow on someone’s motives. Or the supposed true hero suddenly dies. It is similar to our world but is clearly on another planet with much weirder turn of seasons. And here clearly are magic that contradicts our scientific view of the world. And yet we all buy it like children in front of the fire. Like we are supposed to.

The art of Storytelling itself is done with such love of the craft. On a such a mastery level that you are left sometimes speechless after a viewing.

This is easily the best Storytelling I have ever experienced.

And the Game of Thrones the Music is one of the best ever made.

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Life is a Game

Life is a game [The 3 major games humans play]

And what about the moral of the story? What are we supposed to take with us? This is just what storytelling is about. Conveying morals and teaching us stuff. Don’t you ever think that stories are just silly tales for children or a temporary distraction from what is real in life. Then you have not been listening. Stories is the very way your brain runs. All your conscious thoughts are just a story your brain is telling for you. Your Story as I write in my blog.

So for me it is easy. Life is a Game with lots of PERMA in it. There are 3 games we play on our planet. They are:

Game of Social

Society is a big game. A game of social understanding, belonging and fitting in. To befriend everyone and to be popular. Most of us play this game within the current tribe(s). But for some chosen few it’s a game on a world stage. We all play it. For many it is a hidden game that the subconscious brain plays without us knowing it.

But some play it on a very conscious level. Some play it in the old world where many people still live. There it is a game of climbing social ladders. Where you play it with the other “players”.

Others play it in the new world, where it’s a game of flourishing in social networks. To do Social Good. And get the recognition for it. Here Social Media is a great tool to help you along. But don’t forget meeting all your contacts in person where the real magic is happening.

Let’s do Social Good!

Train your Empathizing skills and Join the Masquerade.

Game of Money [And Status]

This is the game that most people play. Most play it to keep their family fed, safe and happy. But there is large scale game of money that just escalates every year. More and more are getting into the game and stakes is getting higher every year. We will probably not stop playing this game in the foreseeable future. But we must change the rules. It’s already out of hand. Much because so much of the game is hidden or many steps removed from common life.

We must make the game transparent and we must change the victory condition for what a winning hand looks like.

We already know that once you have enough money giving you more money will not make you smarter or more creative. And you will not be happier. Quite often the opposite. It’s the innate feeling of belonging and status that trigger the hunt for money and what it buy us. Generating money by using money is a game in it self that triggers many game mechanics that reward us for our behavior.

Here we can change what gives us status and belonging to groups by making our actions open and transparent. When we can see what people spend their money on we can highlight what is important in life. We can give credits to people that does Social Good. In a modern designer boardgame money is usually just a mean to get you Prestige- and Victory-points.

We must change what gives Prestige-points in our society and life.

Game of Power

I have a previous blog about the Game of Power. Go on and read it! Instead of trying to gain power on the cost of others. We can make the game about who can pull with the greatest power towards a common goal.

Who can show the biggest Power of Strength?

“As we learn more about our own nature we can embark on a journey into our own soul. To play this new game of Power. Just like the stars in our Galaxy we can play this as collaborative game where everyone wins. Where we all pull together in the same direction. Just imagine what force we can amass when we pull together.” – @LordSillion

Let’s play tonight!

DJ Bailar – Life Is A Game (DJ Anheim Floor Killer Club Mix)

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]

House Sillion - Life is a Game

House Sillion – Life is a Game

A new Game of Power for you

Power is Power [It’s a trick and a game]

The Game of Power is part of what I call The Great Masquerade. The great fantasy and game that our brain is pretending to play. It feels so real and yet … you know… It’s all in The Matrix 😉

Power resides where men believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall, and a very small man can cast a very large shadow

Power resides where men believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall, and a very small man can cast a very large shadow

Varys: “Power is a curious thing, my lord. Are you fond of riddles?”
Tyrion: “Why? Am I about to hear one?”
V: “Three great men sit in a room, a king, a priest and the rich man. Between them stands a common sellsword. Each great man bids the sellsword kill the other two. Who lives? Who dies?”
T: “Depends on the sellsword”
V: “Does it? He’s not the crown, no gold, no favor with the gods”
T: “He’s got the sword, the power of life and death”
V: “But if the swordsman’s who rule, why do we pretend kings hold all the power? When Ned Stark lost his head, who was truly responsible: Joffrey, the executioner, or something else?”
T: “I have decided I don’t like riddles”
V: “Power resides where men believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall, and a very small man can cast a very large shadow”
— Game of Thrones

Galaxy of power [How powerful is our sun?]

In our Galaxy there are many powerful forces. Gravity being the most fascinating one. It’s reach seems endless. Yet even the biggest star although impressive at first look. It exerts a tremendous pull in it’s own solar system. And yet it is humble when it comes to the forces that holds a galaxy together. Like a big collaborative effort all pulling on each other.

“That was about knowledge and the stakes were nothing. This is about power and the stakes are everything” — Jessica, Suits

Knowledge is Power! No Power is Power!

In the Realm of the living. Power has a whole different meaning. The greatest of Civilizations stretches it’s claws over a small realm on small window of time. Yet their powers also seems limitless. What is power then? We can’t touch, see or smell it. Or can we?

Power
Born out of Nature
Coveted by Man
Wars rage on and victors are crowned
But True Power can never be lost or won
True Power comes from within

Power can be hoarded by the mighty or stolen form the innocent.
Power provides the ability to choose, but has a proclivity for corruption
The use of Power is not to be taken lightly
For it is never without consequence — Emily Thorne, Revenge

An Evening with the  Revenge cast

An Evening with the Revenge cast

Game of Power [Power will take you everywhere]

Here on Earth power is a game many play. And have been playing since the Dawn of man. Like in Game of Thrones it has always been a privileged few throughout history who has been playing this game. For most humans the game never existed or only on small level within the tribe. Even if some would have been playing it within a tribe. Most of the game would have been about working together with the tribe.

In modern time on a global scale the game has also been out of grasp and out reach of the common man. Even the illusion of power that many experience in the modern democracy is nothing of what is coming to Earth now. Or must come if we are to prevail.

“Fairplay had about as much currency as the toothfairy.
See, the thing is, one necessary evil leads to another ’til one day you can’t differentiate between what’s necessary and what’s merely expedient. And when that happens, you’re done. You’re a monster.” — Mayor Tom Kane, Boss

Global Solution Networks

Listening to Don Tapscott on the RSA today and his talk about Solving the World’s Problems Differently I and many more now are beginning to grasp new world. A world where everyone can play a game of power. A Game for a global human future.

“You have a power Cardinal Borgia – a strength, a destiny that even you don’t recognize .. for good or for ill but I have no doubt it will be used, and the whole of Italy will be changed by it ” — Ursula, The Borgias

Living on Planet Earth just got a whole lot more interesting. — LordSillion


The Nature of power [The Myth of Rationality]

Yet everything can swing in the wrong direction. As the “MEN” in power today wont let it slip lightly. Such is the seduction and corruption of power. Human nature must be balanced. We are not living in a rational time as some of may believe. It’s a trap!

“Choosing money over power is a mistake almost everyone makes. Money is the big mansion in Sarasota that starts falling apart after ten years. Power is that old stone building that stands for centuries. I cannot respect someone who does not see the difference” — Francis Underwood, House of Cards

As we learn more about our own nature we can embark on a journey into our own soul. To play this new game of Power. Just like the stars in our Galaxy we can play this as collaborative game where everyone wins. Where we all pull together in the same direction. Just imagine what force we can amass when we pull together.

@LordSillion