Discussion with Eddie Obeng and Daniel Pink #Blogg100

#026 [XXVI]
I found a new great podcast [What Podcast do you listen too?]

Found a new Podcast today: London Real. There are 2 great episodes with Eddie Obeng and Daniel Pink. They are available on iTunes and Youtube as well (See Below).

Eddie Obeng on London Real

Eddie Obeng on London Real

Imagine the Fish [Problem finders and Thinkers]

Eddie is an educator that’s educate organizations on how to get along in the “New World”. He doesn’t tell people what to do. He teaches them to figure out what to do. The old saying “Give a man fish” doesn’t apply anymore. Here is Eddies modified variant.

Teach a man how to learn how to fish and he may also learn how to hunt, farm, produce works of art or cook.
Teach a man how to teach others to fish and you feed the village and then the world. And for you, again for 2013 and onwards I now say – First, IMAGINE A FISH. — Eddie Obeng

In the Old World your boss was someone who had done your job along time ago and know how to do it. But now everything has changed. Now your boss must help you facilitate you doing stuff that he has just a vague idea of how to do.

Daniel Pink I have to talk to before in Life’s a pitch [How you can “Sell” and Persuade better].

Psilocybin [One of Hive-Switch Tiggers]

Also check  out Dr. Robin Carhart-Harris talking about the effects of Psilocybin & MDMA and how they could be used to help with depression and addiction, his controversial colleague Professor David Nutt who claimed Cannabis & Ecstasy were safer & less addictive than Alcohol & Tobacco.

Psilocybin is one of the triggers that switches on the Hive-Switch in your brain that Jonathan Haidt talks about.

Other great Podcasts[What is your inspiration podcasts?]

Other great podcasts that inspire me is of course The RSA that I have talked about before on my Inspiration Lists. What make The RSA so great is the fact that after a person have given their presentation there is a short conversation follow by live question from the audience and Twitter. So that it becomes a dialog instead.

Other interesting podcasts is TED Radio Hour and HBR Podcast.

Gaming and Swedish

For eSports I currently listen to LowElo for League Of Legends.

I also listen regularly to 3 Boardgame podcasts. The Dice Tower, The D6 Generation and Ludology.

[SWE] In Swedish I listen to Nördsnack, Gott prat, Maktministeriet och Klotet.

Listen to more enriching PodCasts. What have I missed?

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]

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How to Persuade better with Daniel Pink #Blogg100

#062 [LXII]
Life’s a pitch [How you can “Sell” and Persuade better]

Daniel Pink - Life’s a pitch

Daniel Pink – Life’s a pitch

We are constantly persuading others to use their time and resources to do things the way we want them done. How can you get better at this?

Now you can hear Daniel Pink’s event on the RSA here: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others. As before I was able to get my own question answered via Twitter:

Pink question

ABCs for persuading others

There are 3 keys in persuading others. These are the ABCs of persuasion: Attunement, Buoyancy, Clarity.

Attunement [Perspective taking]

Attunement is to bring oneself into harmony with other individuals, groups, and context. Listening to and understanding them. Mirroring back and Perspective taking.

This is when we mirror back another persons words, gestures and posture. We then end up seeing things from another person perspective. This triggers our mirror neurons in our brains and builds trust.

The most successful pitcher are the people who invite the other person in as a participate. See the pitching process as an invitation to collaborate. An invitation to give me your point of view. Pitch is a prelude to a to an engagement. The point of a pitch is to engage the other person so that you can have a continued conversation.

You must also build trust over time by befriending them.

Remembering and and saying another persons name is also great for building a relation. As my No.1 tip I say Befriend Everyone.

Lessen your power to increase it

When you feel more powerful you get worse on Perspective taking. So to increase your power you must feel less powerful and more humble.

Feelers and Thinkers

To be a successful negotiator you must ask yourself, what are they feeling. But Feelers are not the best at negotiate. Even if we like them to be. They are good, but Thinkers are even better. They are the ones who can figure out what others are interested in and what are they thinking. You must also understand that everyone has something that they hold sacred and will defended in a very irrational way.

“If you want to understand a group follow their sacredness. Wherever people sacralize something you will find: Ignorance, Blindness to the Truth and Resistance to evidence”Jonathan Haidt

Buoyancy [Ability to stay afloat]

How do you remain afloat in an Ocean of Rejection? What should you do before, during and after an encounter?

Before an encounter you should question your abilities instead of pumping yourself up. This will make you aware of your weak points and better respond to them and not make you to overconfident.

During an encounter you should use more positive words and feelings. Here you must reach the Losada Ratio. With a ratio of at least 3 to 1 on positive words over negative words, but never more tan 11 to 1. That’s where people will start thinking you are crazy.

If you want to criticize someone and want the message to get through instead of rejected. You must first reach a Losada Ratio of 5 to 1.

After an Encounter we must be good at explaining failure and learn from it. This we can do with resilience training. According to Martin Seligman and his research there are 3 ways to do this. The opposite of personal, pervasive, and permanent. That is transient, situational, and specific. I had nothing to do with me. This things happens sometimes. We can learn from the outcome and adapt to it in the future.

A failure or setback is just temporary. I can change it and this was just this one occurrence.

This also the ability to adapt to change and failure. See Eddie Obeng and Smart Failure. I discuss this more in episode #092 [XCII] Adapt, Adapt, Adapt

Martin Seligman

Martin Seligman

Clarity [Distill information]

We must be able to filter through plethora of information that is available today. The capacity to make sense of murky situations. One of the most effective ways of moving others is to uncover challenges they may not know they have. Not only solve problems but To find Opportunities where others see none. The ability look into the future and predict where a bump in the road might occur.

“Roads? Where we are going we don’t need roads!” — Dr. Emmett Brown

Utility or Curiosity

He also mentions the best way to pitch in email form. The in order for a email to be opened the subject line most speak to our curiosity or must feel useful at the moment like I described in episode #072 [LXXII] How you can affect others better.

Then Why?

Yes and what about my question on Twitter? Where did it go? Yes, why we should do something is very important. See more about Simon Sinek in my blog.

If you want to change someone behavior you should always start explaining why before you explain how to do it and what you get when it’s done. And you must explain this on a personal level for each individual. Why they should do something and what they stand to gain.

Here is another blog about Daniel Pink’s RSA talk.

@LordSillion

Adapt, Adapt, Adapt! #Blogg100

#092 [XCII]
Adapt, Adapt, Adapt and Run! [Anpassa, Adaptera … Spring]

Todays topic will come tomorrow. Today I had to adapt instead.

“Life perpetuates itself through diversity.
And this includes the ability to sacrifice itself when necessary.
Cells repeat the process of degeneration and regeneration,
until one day they die, obliterating an entire set of memory and information.
Only genes remain.
Why continually repeat this cycle?
Simply to survive by avoiding the weaknesses of an unchanging system.” — Project 2501 – Ghost in The Shell

Reward Experience

Today Stefan Hyttfors got awarded with Swedish Breakthrough Speaker of the Year 2012. Tomorrow I’m going to speak more about his philosophy.

We often see media celebrate winners and heroes and put them on high pedestals. This time of year it is common with various awards being dealt out. But what we forget to celebrate is the ones who got the most “Experience” during the year.

eddie_obeng

I give you Eddie Obeng who puts in “fast” words how to Adapt to fast changing world.
He Says_ When your boss tells you to “Take risks and be creative”. What it translates into is “Do crazy things and I fire you”.
Well See for your self:

From Failing you learn

Also check out Liffemans TED inspiration form today about adapting.

“From Failing you learn”
“Keep Moving Forward”

Tomorrow I will use my experience to give you more 🙂

@LordSillion