Train your Empathizing skills #Blogg100

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The Empathy Revolution [Let us Reach out across Space & Time]

Know thyself to get along with others better

We are not the self-interested creature with selfish genes that many have lead us to believe. According to the latest science we are all born highly emphatic. And it’s a skill that we can train all our life. Get to know your inner self to see what masks you are wearing and how you play the Great Masquerade.


I stumbled upon a RSA Animate that I have missed from last years RSA events. RSA Animate – The Power of Outrospection. And the full audio Podcast. It’s with Roman Krznaric who talks about how we can get more Empathy in our society. Here it is at the RSA: The Six Habits of Highly Empathic People

Train your Empathizing skills

Yes! It is possible and you should do some of this exercises every week. Also check out this Article about it: Six Habits of Highly Empathic People.

Habit 1: Cultivate curiosity about strangers

Highly emphatic people (HEPs) have an insatiable curiosity about strangers. Challenge yourself to have an interesting conversation each week with a stranger.

Habit 2: Challenge prejudices and discover commonalities

The fact is that as a Human being you have far more in common than not with every other human being on the planet. Challenge your prejudices by searching for what you share with other people rather than what differs between you. Talk to the Elephant and find Common Ground. Like I discuss in my blog Why are we so Groupish?

Habit 3: Get into “extreme sport” of experimental empathy

Try living another persons life. Try Live Action Role Playing (LARP) as another person that are living in another culture or in a different time. Go live in a village in a different country. Or do a “God Swap” if you are religious.

This is the most rewarding but also the hardest way to train to become a HEP. Here we can also roleplay meeting our own future generations and explain our actions to them. Or just maybe Future ME will have something to say about my own actions today. Go ahead. Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself.

“Hello Future Me! What will I think of my actions today?”

Hello Future Me!

Hello Future Me!

Roman Krznaric thinks we should get a Empathy Museum where you can go and have empathy experiences. What is it like to work under sweatshop conditions or in a plantation where they grow our food?

Habit 4: Practice the art of conversation

We must practice and listen to what is really going on emotionally in another persons life. Then we open up and exposes our own personal feelings. Removing our masks. I did this at my latest session in during WebCoast. See it here in Swedish

Habit 5: Inspire mass action and social change

We need make an emphatic mass-change to our whole society. One way to do this is to start with out children. We need to teach them empathy. Talk to them about morality and what consequences our actions and behavior has on others.

Empathy should be at the heart of our Social, Economic and Political decisions. Funny enough this correlates to the three games I came up with in my Game of Life blog. We must change this 3 global games so that “winning” in them means doing good.

Game of Social – Game of Money – Game of Power

Here we are still waiting to see what emerging effects Social Media and The Network Society can have. But if we are to believe thinkers like Don Tapscott it will bring about many exiting changes if we work hard and let it.

Habit 6: Develop an ambitious imagination. Become “Outrospective”

This is the Hardest Challenge of the all. To empathize with the “Enemy”. With those who think differently. We must stop Demonizing them and get under their skin instead. Especially those in Power. If we can understand how the leaders of worlds largest companies and our politicians are thinking we can more easily affect them and make them change course.

Here bureaucracy is a great roadblock to Empathy. And we must think of new ways to get around it.

Working good ethics into the core of companies modus operandi is essential making this world work in the long run. It has already started with companies that does Social Good and with Social Entrepreneurs.  But we have a long way to go still.

Do Good Shit! — Alex Bogusky

Teaching our children more Empathy [We can all get better] 

If we start early it will be much easier to be good at this skill. Although it is never to late for any of us.

We should be teaching this in every school all over the world. And we should be talking about it in every organization. Practice it on a weekly or daily basis. We must reach out across Space & Time!

What are our core values? And how should we reach them today and tomorrow?

VNV Nation – Space & Time

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]

A new Game of Power for you

A new Game of Power for you

Power is Power [It’s a trick and a game]

The Game of Power is part of what I call The Great Masquerade. The great fantasy and game that our brain is pretending to play. It feels so real and yet … you know… It’s all in The Matrix 😉

Power resides where men believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall, and a very small man can cast a very large shadow

Power resides where men believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall, and a very small man can cast a very large shadow

Varys: “Power is a curious thing, my lord. Are you fond of riddles?”
Tyrion: “Why? Am I about to hear one?”
V: “Three great men sit in a room, a king, a priest and the rich man. Between them stands a common sellsword. Each great man bids the sellsword kill the other two. Who lives? Who dies?”
T: “Depends on the sellsword”
V: “Does it? He’s not the crown, no gold, no favor with the gods”
T: “He’s got the sword, the power of life and death”
V: “But if the swordsman’s who rule, why do we pretend kings hold all the power? When Ned Stark lost his head, who was truly responsible: Joffrey, the executioner, or something else?”
T: “I have decided I don’t like riddles”
V: “Power resides where men believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall, and a very small man can cast a very large shadow”
— Game of Thrones

Galaxy of power [How powerful is our sun?]

In our Galaxy there are many powerful forces. Gravity being the most fascinating one. It’s reach seems endless. Yet even the biggest star although impressive at first look. It exerts a tremendous pull in it’s own solar system. And yet it is humble when it comes to the forces that holds a galaxy together. Like a big collaborative effort all pulling on each other.

“That was about knowledge and the stakes were nothing. This is about power and the stakes are everything” — Jessica, Suits

Knowledge is Power! No Power is Power!

In the Realm of the living. Power has a whole different meaning. The greatest of Civilizations stretches it’s claws over a small realm on small window of time. Yet their powers also seems limitless. What is power then? We can’t touch, see or smell it. Or can we?

Born out of Nature
Coveted by Man
Wars rage on and victors are crowned
But True Power can never be lost or won
True Power comes from within

Power can be hoarded by the mighty or stolen form the innocent.
Power provides the ability to choose, but has a proclivity for corruption
The use of Power is not to be taken lightly
For it is never without consequence — Emily Thorne, Revenge

An Evening with the  Revenge cast

An Evening with the Revenge cast

Game of Power [Power will take you everywhere]

Here on Earth power is a game many play. And have been playing since the Dawn of man. Like in Game of Thrones it has always been a privileged few throughout history who has been playing this game. For most humans the game never existed or only on small level within the tribe. Even if some would have been playing it within a tribe. Most of the game would have been about working together with the tribe.

In modern time on a global scale the game has also been out of grasp and out reach of the common man. Even the illusion of power that many experience in the modern democracy is nothing of what is coming to Earth now. Or must come if we are to prevail.

“Fairplay had about as much currency as the toothfairy.
See, the thing is, one necessary evil leads to another ’til one day you can’t differentiate between what’s necessary and what’s merely expedient. And when that happens, you’re done. You’re a monster.” — Mayor Tom Kane, Boss

Global Solution Networks

Listening to Don Tapscott on the RSA today and his talk about Solving the World’s Problems Differently I and many more now are beginning to grasp new world. A world where everyone can play a game of power. A Game for a global human future.

“You have a power Cardinal Borgia – a strength, a destiny that even you don’t recognize .. for good or for ill but I have no doubt it will be used, and the whole of Italy will be changed by it ” — Ursula, The Borgias

Living on Planet Earth just got a whole lot more interesting. — LordSillion

The Nature of power [The Myth of Rationality]

Yet everything can swing in the wrong direction. As the “MEN” in power today wont let it slip lightly. Such is the seduction and corruption of power. Human nature must be balanced. We are not living in a rational time as some of may believe. It’s a trap!

“Choosing money over power is a mistake almost everyone makes. Money is the big mansion in Sarasota that starts falling apart after ten years. Power is that old stone building that stands for centuries. I cannot respect someone who does not see the difference” — Francis Underwood, House of Cards

As we learn more about our own nature we can embark on a journey into our own soul. To play this new game of Power. Just like the stars in our Galaxy we can play this as collaborative game where everyone wins. Where we all pull together in the same direction. Just imagine what force we can amass when we pull together.


Best of Social Media Week 2012 #Blogg100

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Best of Social Media Week 2012

Do you wan’t to find out what is going on in the world in this new network society of ours?

Next week is Social Media Week all over the World. From 18 to 22 of February you can follow livestreams from all kind of events. Find them on Twitter and Facebook too.

Who is with me next week?

We can follow some of the keynotes using Skype or Google Hangout together! 🙂

Start spreading the news…

Last year in February I watch many of the seminars and speeches online here is my 3 favorite ones from last year all from SWM New York.  @SmwNyc

Don Tapscott - Rethink Cilivilzation

Don Tapscott – Rethink Cilivilzation

Don Tapscott (@dtapscott) talks about the new Network Society that I’ve mention in my previous blog: Swimming in the Flow

Is It Getting Hot In Here? Considering Social Media's Impact on Climate Change

Is It Getting Hot In Here? Considering Social Media’s Impact on Climate Change

Janine GibsonFabien Cousteau, David E. Guggenheim and  Andrew Revkin talks about how to use Social Media to change the World. How to use Emotional Impact to inform.

Alex Bogusky + Innovative Models for Social Good Collaboration

Alex Bogusky + Innovative Models for Social Good Collaboration

Alex Bogusky talks about how to do Social good mentioned in my Blog: Do Shit that Matters

Sustainability, Collaboration, Transparency and Community are the 4 keywords.


Swimming in the Flow #Blogg100

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Välja att simma i Flödet [Choosing to swim in The Flow]


Swimming with with Predator X

Idag har jag lyssnat på Filosofiska rummet med @Mymlan (Sofia Mirjamsdotter), Andreas Jacobsson, Peter Gärdenfors om Konsten att leva i ett informationssamhälle. @Mymlan bloggar själv om det idag. Det handlar om informationsstressen och hur man lever med det ständigt ökande informationsflödet som man kan “Välja” att utsätta sig för. Förutsatt att det då finns “Fri Vilja” 🙂

Internet och nätverkssamhället har precis kommit till Jorden. Det kan vara jobbigt att anpassa sig till detta nya sätt att leva. Men man behöver inte göra det ensam. Vi kan hjälpa varandra att anpassa oss, filtrera information och se till våra kroppar chans att vila, röra på sig och göra andra kognitiva aktiviteter utanför detta flöde.

Själva iden med detta nya samhälle är ju att vi ska göra saker tillsammans på ett helt nytt sätt som mänskligheten aldrig skådat innan.

Hjälp varandra att simma!

Jag är säker på att mitt alter ego Lord Commander Sillion kommer dyka upp i framtiden som gästbloggare här och ge sina synpunkter på hur nätverkssamhället fungerar på deras planet och hur det kan utveckla sig i framtiden här på Jorden. Under tiden kan vi ta del av Don Tapscotts tankar kring det.

“What if we could connect ourselves in this world through a vast network…could we go beyond just sharing information & knowledge? Could we start to share our intelligence? Could we create some kind of collective intelligence that goes beyond an individual or a group or a team – to create perhaps some kind of consciousness on a global basis. If we could do this we could attack some big problems in the world.”

“I get a lot of hope that maybe this smaller, networked, open world that our kids inherit – might be a better one, and that this new age of networked intelligence could be an age of promise fulfilled, and of peril unrequited.”

“Let’s do this.” — Don Tapscott

The Science Fiction Social Media Dilemma

Ikväll så jag också första delen av den Kanadensiska TV-serien Continuum. Den verkar ganska lovande Men …. När jag tänker på all gammal och ny science fiction som görs så har den ju sällan med social media och ett globalt stort nätverk där alla är samman kopplade. Och det gäller även annan Storytelling som handlar om dagens samhälle. Tänk så många problem dom kunde lösa om dom använt detta nätverk.

Best not to think about it to much …

Kolla in Don Tapscott om ni inte gjort det innan