We all do it! Tell Stories. And almost every one of them we tell to ourself. It is how consciousness works. It’s a story of yourself. And your conscious self can help self-direct it. It’s called making choices. Some say that we don’t have free will. I think they are defining it wrong. We do choices all the time. All based on the previous stories we have stored in our brain. What is a lie then? It’s just a story. Most of the time we can’t tell if it’s “true”. To the brain all things are stories. A conscious lie is when we have two parallel stories of what took place and chooses to tell the other. So how often do you direct your own stories?
How good are you at lying to yourself? [Become a better Self-Narrator!]
Think about for 10 seconds before you read on.
So I have been listening to a lot of different “Stories” on Lying and Self-Narration. For a good start I recommend listening to TED Radio hour: Why We Lie with people like Dan Ariely and Michael Shermer.
“Can’t have champagne wishes without caviar dreams.” – Nolan Ross
As you read this you are watching a movie. It’s a very real movie triggering all of your senses. It is called Consciousness. It’s made up from a very complex source of external and internal sensory inputs, simulations, memories and stories. In order for it all to come together, The Director in your mind, has to cut many corners and throw away lots of material. The Director is a very good liar, or Storyteller as we would like to call it. This is in fact “You” lying to yourself. It all makes sense. This Story, that is you. Sometimes it’s just not “The Truth”. Because for the Brain that is a mythological concept.
“Character Is A Vital Lie” – Ernest Becker
As you interact with the outside world, you are constantly using this story to further you, on your journey through life. Your brain is full of filters that makes everything you experience a very unique experience just for you. Keep that in mind when you interact with others and share your story.
You Always Believe What You Tell Yourself
When you think of it, this is our greatest gift. Something that should be cherished. It’s also a good skill to have. It’s a form of Masquerade and a Roleplaying Game. You have many internal roles and parts of your brain that blends into a mix that is you and gives rise to your self illusion. With this in mind let’s get better at it. If you want to Change people. Don’t tell them what to do. Tell them a Story that they can internalize and tell to themselves. That can become part of their story.
The Self is a house of Cards – Jason Silva
Life is a Game. Let’s Play Tonight!
Let’s play a little game. I want you to try and tell your story to others and have them tell your story back to you. How does that feel? Now do the same for them. Ask them how does that feel. To to reflect together on how your own story differs from others story about you.
We can all need a little help in the Narration of our own lives. Start spending time with people who are good at Narrating their own life. Then you will become better at narrating your own. We can all Become Gurus of Our Own Life as Jonathan Fields put it. Just remember:
Even if you are alone in your own mind, you are never alone outside of it.
Become a better Self-Narrator!
Holistic Thinking Ninja