What Is Love? [Her the Movie]

Why does Movies affect us more than we know? They can enlighten the way we think about ourselves and our future. What many of us know about love and how we should live together we get from Movies and TV-Series. So finally we get a movie like Her, who takes responsibility in awaken our thoughts on the matter. What can it teach us about love and how we should live together in the future? Find out below as my mind wanders on the subject 🙂

Do You Feel Alone? [Is More Love and Companionship the Answer?]

Her the Movie

Her the Movie – The heart is not like a box that gets filled up – It expands in size the more you love

We humans are social creatures by nature. It’s what makes us human. We are made for living together sharing food and stories with each others . Modern brain science shows that it’s hardwired into our brains. It’s makes us feel good when we help others. Most of us don’t like being alone and yet our modern world seems designed in many ways to keep us apart. Especially the notion that we should live only with our significant other and maybe some children. Or just alone by ourselves, like how many people do in our big modern cities. And yet, we are designed to live in a small or a large Tribe in so many ways.

Some of us has made it work, to live together with others. Many of rest of us feel very alone in our lives and in our decisions. This become very apparent during Christmas. The guilt and the loneliness we try to smother by consuming ever more stuff. Many of us tries to drown our Social Pain in Alcohol or Drugs. The Mental Care institutes are ever so crowded around the holidays, filled with human tragedy. And it’s going in the wrong direction. We now know that Social Pain is as real to the brain as physical pain. The old myth that we can just shake it of, is no longer valid and truly busted. Thanks to modern science and MRI scans we now know that large parts of our brain are wired to keep us in the social game. So what is the opposite of Social Pain and being alone? Is it Love and Companionship? What can we do to get better at this Social Game?

What do you think?

Decisions, Decisions [Why are we so bad at them?]

Human are also especially bad at making crucial decisions alone. We all need help. The Brain is very prone to make irrational emotional decisions and make up a logical rational explanation long after the decision is made. Sometimes we only have an explanation when we get asked about why we did what we did. We also hold things sacred. And around things we hold sacred, we are especially bad at making informed decisions. Here we all need help. Preferable from people who don’t think alike to avoid group thinking. This is also a reason why we should spend more time together. So that we can be there for each other.

So ask for help the next time you are making a tough decision.

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Are you Her? [The past is just a story we tell ourselves] 

The movie HER by Spike Jonze is a very fascinating story about love and loneliness. The setting is near future where living together or alone is just as complex or even more so than today. Check out some of the background to the movie here: Spike Jonze Imagines the Future of Intelligence, Mobile Design, Love and Pants in “HER” and The Past is Just a Story We Tell Ourselves. There are many questions that pop into my head during this move. And non get any real answer. They are just for us the Audience to ponder on. The questions I ponder on are:

1. Are we okay with living on our own? [Does just intellectual companionship suffice?]

Yes. We probably are. Intellectual stimuli are something most of us get to little of. It’s something many of us crave more of. Even though some parts of the brain is lazy, other parts can’t resist excitement if feels when getting a proper intellectual dialog going.

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No. She is a fictional construct, whereas I am a virtual entity. But we can still be friends.

Theodore in Her thinks he has found a perfect relationship with the AI called Samantha in the beginning. It’s just a little awkward when he should tell others about it, that might not understand. It’s like Raj in the episode The Beta Test Initiation of Big Bang Theory season 5. Raj has extreme trouble talking to women. So he finds true excitement when he gets an iPhone 5 with Siri and starts a relationship with her. So long as he is alone with Siri it’s fine but it becomes social awkward when they should socialize with other people.

Theodore on the other hand finds out everyone else is doing it too, having a virtual relationship with their AI. I think it could be an interesting companionship for everyone. Especially with those who has trouble forming real world relationships. But her lies also the real danger. Maybe now they have no reason at all to meet real people. With the right mindset it can probably be give us better social skills. And we all need that. Can it be Empathy training for those who need it the most? Yes, as long as it doesn’t replaces all other real world relationships. We need those too. It doesn’t replace them. It just complements them, I think.

We need the physical touch too, that generates oxytocin in our bodies. The brain is to hardwired for interaction with other humans or even other mammals for us to ignore the positive effects of living together. Sharing life and touching each other. So could we live in mental companionship with AI or a true online relationship while getting other social stimuli from other real persons? Like a mix? Probably, but it would be very hard balancing act to conduct. So is it worth giving a try? If we do nothing to conduct our future, we will probably get there soon. Should we?

2. How should we then design tomorrows cities and societies? [Are we ready for the cramming?]

Her The Movie - Designing our future cities for a better social life

Her The Movie – Designing our future cities for a better social life

We just love living in social tribes. That why so many of us move to, or live in cities. We are just not very good at designing these lives, in the city. Up until know most of our living has been without any design thinking. Many of us end up alone in the cities. The “Free Market” takes non of this into consideration when cramming us so close together, yet so separated by walls. And it’s not sustainable either. With every one of us having so many recourses by ourselves, without sharing them.

Let’s design our future cities so that they enables a better social life with more love & empathy and give room for a health life — Michael Sillion

And it’s now a theory, that even the very first cities from ten thousand years ago where only able to survive and flourish, thanks to the invention of beer. With so many people living together without a plan or oversight we are just hellbent on getting in each other’s faces. Alcohol solved some part of that problem by making us more social and tolerant of each other.

Now we know better what makes us tic and what makes us sting each other. It’s a very interesting and social science will continue to evolve us into insights, about how we should live together. With so many of us bunching up, shouldn’t we use our new knowledge to design better ways of living together? I defiantly think we should. We can’t leave it just to chance and the economic forces of a market economy. The life and the future is not about profit. We need to take charge, like some cities all over the world has already done.

Maybe all we need is our little cave where we can be alone for a while. But we also need new and better campfires where we can huddle up, share a meal and a conversation. Watch the stars and the moon. Engulf in fantasies about the past and the future together, using our favorite storytelling. And in all the excitement we can play great games and sports together. Sharpening both mind and body. We should even engulf in spiritual and energetic dance together. Thus turning on the Hive-Switch in our minds, binding us ever closer together.

3. What is Love? [Baby don’t hurt me, Baby don’t hurt me, No more]

Peter Sage on Love – Being someones significant other.

Yes, what is love? Peter Sage gives a great definition on London Real

Love is being someones significant other — Peter Sage

The definition of significant being: Separate from. Different too. Unique.
So total focused unconditional presence is what you should have in mind. Not two half circles that complete each other. It is two whole circles that are attracted to each other. Before you can truly love someone else, you must first find and complete yourself. And it’s also a paradox. As no one is never complete. The journey never ends. So is true love impossible or just slightly improbable? I think it’s something you should always strive towards and never reach.

Don’t be a boat that tries to carry someone. Be a lighthouse and harbour to light their path and provide comfort and understanding.

What we can do to make any relationship better is to make it Active Constructive. When someone close to you give you good news you can choose to respond in enthusiastic positive way. You also should try to keep a positive Losada Ration. More than not you should have positive conversations with your partner.

4. What can we do to change all this? [Let’s get social]

We are now entering a new era of a Social Society. We are just seeing the seeds of this thanks to the Internet and Social Media. This new Society will not come automatically. We need to help creating it, for it to become true. I can easily go in the wrong direction or go away entirely if we are not careful. Indeed some parts of society already are. It’s very interesting to listen to the thoughts of Matthew Liberman, Dov Siedman, Brené Brown and Daniel Goleman all from the RSA podcast. They all have different things to say about Era of Social and Empathy. And yet you can connect the dots between them. It all combines well with what Peter Sage says above about moving into a creative entrepreneurial future together. Go ahead and give one of them a listen 🙂

Her the Movie - Let's hack the Future

Her the Movie – Let’s hack the Future

Hack the Source Code [Create the Future]

We can’t just redo our lives over and over again until we get it right like in movies like Goundhog Day and Source Code. We have to make up for our mistakes along their way. But if we are smart about or actions and learn quickly from our own and others mistakes, we can Hack Life to the better. Listen to what other wise people have to say and hack out our own path through the wilderness. Bring along their tools, and use them in your own way.

So don’t hasten to judge someone else. Try to listen to them and understand them instead.

The best quote from Her the Movie is:

The past is just a Story we tell ourselves — Samantha

Don’t dwell and focus on the past. No good will come from it. Forgive and move on. Because: The Future is also a Story we tell ourselves. It shapes the Path we set out to travel on. Surround yourself with people who are on the same journey and you will be much more likely to get there. We create our own future. If we want more Love in this world we just have to Hack it in a smart way to get it.

Lets hack life for more Love & Empathy!

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Your Future Captain

[Images courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictures]

The Kamiwaza Way [I Want to be a Godlike Ninja Futurist]

We are Godlike says Seth Godin. What Godlike Powers will I use in my future? What skills have I? What do have to learn, fail with and finally Master? Will I become Master – Sensei – Ninja?

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Master – Sensei – Ninja [Who Am I?]

This is part 4 of 4 of for the Big Summertime Storytelling I do this summer with Man of Steel, Wolverine, Pacific Rim and Elysium.

I have spent the last year Respeccing my Talents. Just like you do in World of WarCarft. I have always figured that I was some form of visionary and philosopher. So I decided to respec my skills. It has been a very interesting journey so far. I have challenging myself to learn something new every day. From the beginning I didn’t know what to become or who I wanted to be. But the more I learned and blogged about, I was starting to connect the dots. My vision for the future was becoming clearer. So when I finally heard the 2 podcast episodes from London Real with the 2 Futurists Jason Silva and Melissa Sterry, I finally struck home. I too want to be some kind of Futurist. So when I went to embroider a T-Shirt to wear in Almedalen I had to come up with a title to call myself. Then Holistic Thinking Ninja just popped into my head. So what is that? Bear with me and find out below.

“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” — Wiseman, Sucker Punch

So I will now draw a full circle on these 3 words: Master – Sensei – Ninja. They fit into my reasoning in the story below about Wolverine, Wisdom from League of Legends and becoming Godlike [Kamiwaza] that Seth Godin speaks of. Read on.

“For those who fight for it, life has a flavor the sheltered will never know” — Wiseman, Sucker Punch

Wukong - The Monkey King -- Adapt to all situations - Bring me a real challenge

Wukong – The Monkey King — Adapt to all situations – Bring me a real challenge

The Wolverine [SNKT]

How many of you are fans of the Comic Superhero Wolverine? And if you are, have you ever been standing in front of the mirror going SNKT while extending your hands? Yes? I have. I still do it from time to time 😉

So obviously I have been to the Movies watching The Wolverine. It’s not a great movie but it’s the best Wolverine movie we have to date and Hugh Jackman is just born to play Logan. Although he is not exactly as in the comic you can’t help falling in love with him. He’s the classic unwilling hero. Because he must. To bad the Ninjas don’t put up a fight. This could have been as cool as the comic it is based on from 1982 by Chris Claremont and Frank Miller. Ninjas should be cooler than that.

Ninjas are Awesome!

So what could be done better with this movie? Check out ComicBookGirl19: 10 Things about The Wolverine! Like she says in nr. 10. What is the Moral of the Story? Yes. The Moral of this story as well as in all the other big movies summer is completely missing. Let’s Make Better Art!

Wolverine and Ninjas of the Hand

Wolverine and Ninjas of the Hand

The Ninja, The Samurai and The Beast [Learning and Mastery]

Wolverine is full of Ninjas, Samurais and one Beast. Although they are Japanese, they all have 3 Chinese inspired counterpart heroes in League Of Legends. The 3 matching champions that I try to master are Lee Sin, Master Yi and Wukong. They all come with their own wisdom to share on mastery.

“Master yourself, master the enemy.” — Lee Sin, Play

“A True Master is an Eternal Student” — Master Yi, Play

“Every Mistake is a Lesson – Adapt to all situations – Bring me a real challenge” — Wukong, Master Yi’s apprentice, Play

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Master Yi – A True Master is an Eternal Student

Well maybe Wukong isn’t a beast. But he has a close place in my heart. He is based on the old Sun Wukong, also known as the Monkey King who I was very fascinated with as a child. Because as it was one of the few animated films I saw that wasn’t Disney and it was full with wonder, magic and fighting. And awesome Chinese music. It still resonates within me today. It was one piece of Storytelling that captured my imagination. Who made me think that there is different kind of magic in the world if you let it.

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Sun Wukong – The Monkey King

Be Brave and Be Bold [Fly out on a Kamiwaza path]

The bravery of the Monkey King as he stands up against and challenge the gods draws some parallels the latest book by Seth Godin that I am “reading” [Listening] to right now: “The Icarus Deception“. In it he talks about the new connected networked society. And why we must become Artists. Art is what happens in the connection between people. There must be a receiver for there to be art.

Art is also when we do something that is our own. When we do something that is not safe and outside our safety zone. As Brené Brown so elegantly put it, when we become Vulnerable. It’s then the Magic happens. Creativity only happens when we are willing to put ourselves at the line. Don’t copy or follow others on their safe trodden path. What is the worst that can happen? Be willing to risk a little and carve out your own path. That is why we must also be bold. Don’t fly to low to the sea. Fly high! As we are in no way in any danger of coming to close to the sun as Icarus did.

As Wukong challenges the gods, he also displays Godlike skills and powers. We must also strive to be Godlike:

Myths are ancient truths about what we are capable of. Our gods are oh so human. The deities we create are allot like us at our best — Seth Godin

Superman. Thor. Moses. Athena. George Gershwin. Thomas Edison — they each represent part of what it is to be human; they are inside all of us. We know we are capable of this — to be that strong or that cool or that generous. To persevere and connect and contribute the way our gods can — that’s why we invented them, why we revere them, and why they resonate with us. We have them inside, every day.

And yet we have no perfect word for expressing godlike abilities. We don’t know how to talk about what it is to perform in a mythological way, to strip away the artifice and let the deity express itself.

And the Icarus Deception pushes us to avoid even thinking of it. it strikes deep into our psyche with a vivid warning about the dangers of hubris.

Too late.

We’ve built a world where the only option is hubris, where the future belongs to anyone willing to act like the gods of our myths. Better coin a word for it.

The Japanese call it kamiwaza.

If the gods are us, then do we dare be as the gods are?

The Japanese term kamiwaza, like most great words for which we have no equivalent, is difficult to translate. The shortest version is “godlike.”

So when we strip away self-doubt and artifice, when we embrace initiative and art, we are left with kamiwaza. The purity of doing it properly but without self-consciousness. The runner who competes with kamiwaza is running with purity, running properly, running as the gods would run.

How dare we? How dare we presume to ignore Daedalus, to fly close to the sun, to apparently forego humility in a quest for something unattainable?

How can we not dare?

Hubris makes us godlike, and being godlike makes us human.Seth Godin

We are the New Gods Now [So we might just get good at it]

Godlike or Kamiwaza is also a term used in League of Legends and DotA the original MOBA game. It’s a reward shouted out by the game when you have scored multiple kills in a row without being killed yourself. The reward is originated shouted out in the first Unreal Tournament game.

“We are aspiring amateur gods now” — Kevin Kelly

It’s like Jason Silva says in his London Real interview. We are the New Gods Now. We are the frontal lobes of the Universe. We are the Universe being aware of it self. And we are just at the beginning of our long journey through the Universe. So we might just become the Guardians of our own small blue and green spaceship travelling through our galaxy. So it’s not heresy to have hubris anymore. It is what we must do. But we must do it together with lots of Empathy like I discuss in my blog: The Way of Empathy [The Beast With 2 Hearts].

Seth Godin speaks like many others of this new Connected Economy. It’s good start on our path to walk on. All of us is smarter than any of us. We just need to guide each others so that we don’t walk into darkness and we need to challenge each others to do better. To do better Art!

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Michael Sillion — Master – Sensei – Ninja

My Hubris [Master – Sensei – Ninja]

I too must be Kamiwaza or Godlike in life. Here is what I will focus on. From Michael SillioN I took M-S-N and made it too Master – Sensei – Ninja.

“The only thing standing in your way is you
When you get into flow-state you dim the self critic in the brain” — Jason Silva

Master [A True Master is an Eternal Student]

You must master yourself. Master yourself and you master the challenge. A True Master is never fully learned. This is what Socrates said long ago and what John Lloyd says in his inspiring talk on the RSA: General Ignorance: It’s all about what you don’t know.

Admitting you know nothing is the only way to recognize you still have much to learn — John Lloyd

I will do my best to learn something new every day. To Challenge Myself and my Brain every day.

Sensei [Every Mistake is a Lesson]

I want to spread my findings to others. To share my thoughts on the future. We must learn from our mistakes and share the lessons. As we learn to embrace our vulnerability we are able to share our mistakes and iterate faster to successful innovation. This is a very hard thing to for us humans to do. But as Brené BrownSeth Godin and Neil Gaiman puts it: It is both necessary and the only way the we can put forth our creativity and do True Art.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” — Joseph Campbell

Ninja [Taking the Holistic Approach]

Ninjas is small team that can take on any challenge using cooperation and smart approach. Check out my blog: How to be a modern Ninja and the audio from SXSW: Ninja innovation.

Taking the Holistic approach and sneak in my thoughts everywhere. I don’t want to stand still. I want to go boldly into the future with Collaboration, Sustainability, Transparency and Community in mind. To be a Holistic Thinking Ninja 🙂

Small teams of Ninjas can easily take on a much larger foe using teamwork and their abilities in a smart way — Ninja Innovation

Time to Ninja up!

Time To Ninja Up

Time To Ninja Up!

My Futurist Path [Holistic Thinking Ninja]

As a Futurist and Holistic Thinking Ninja I want to do at least 4 things:

1. Future-Dojo or Social Dojo
I want to create a Future-centre or a Future-Dojo. What I call a Creative Social Dojo. Preferable my first here in Varberg, Sweden, where I live with my children and then spread the concept out into the world. A place where all ages can come and experiment with creativity and tech stuff. It’s a meeting place for creative people. Here we would all train in becoming better versions of our self. What I call Creative Ninjas. Who train their muscles every. The cognitive creative one, their social empath one and the actual body we all live in.

I’m thinking of it as having 4 functions.

Modern School, MakerSpace and Dojo

Incubator and Idea Cavern ThinkTank

Co-Working place

Social Meeting Ground and Awesome Play Ground

People can build things in Minecraft together and then 3D print them. A place where we can watch inspiring talks from TED and all other events. And discuss them together. And watch Sci-Fi Storytelling together and then talk about what is possible and not. I talk more about my thoughts on Sci-Fi Storytelling in this Blog series: Summertime Storytelling

We could do exercises in Empathy to discuss the importance of Cooperation and Collaboration in the a future where food, water and recourses will be scars. A place where we create the future together. Every School should come visit as often as they could to experiment and talk about the future. A Future Temple where both Ninjas and Pirates are welcome 😉

2. Future Meet – Unconference [How should we create a sustainable society?]
I want to have a Future meet event. Like the best part of Almedalen where people come together in an Unconference type of way to discuss how we should Architect the Future together. Taking the Holistic Approach about how should we create a sustainable society together? Either as a standalone event and/or as recurring event on the Future-centre.

3. Futurist Visionary [Speaker and Teacher]
I want visit others as a Futurist. I want to share my thoughts on the Future. As an inspirational teacher [Sensei] and Public Speaker who teaches others how to inspire themselves. I want to meet kids in school and inspire them. Every school and workplace should have Futurist who comes to visit and inspire them for the Future. Who help them create Visions for their own.

4. Future and Science-Hacks
I want help create and organise Science Hacks, Future Hacks and Hackatons like Science Hack Day for aspiring designers, developers, scientists and other geeks. Just about anyone interested in designing the future together are welcome.

“Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone” — Jason Silva

See Jason Silva below


Lets make Future Together!

“So be wise, because the world needs more wisdom, and if you cannot be wise, pretend to be someone who is wise, and then just behave like they would.

And now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here. Make good art.” — Neil Gaiman

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

Update
My Ninja Clan [Superhero Ninja Party]

In honor of me hitting level 40, I had Superhero Ninja Party this summer. We played “Superhero KUBB” where everyone got a special ability to use during the game. We should do this in more sports and games. As it is really empowering. Everyone also got the chance to dress up as hero, ninja or pirate of some kind. Then we designed our own personal special skills for the Future 🙂

I love this type of Party. So I will continue to develop the concept for the Future. Me and my Ninja Clan – My Extended Family.

“When the smoke clears and you get right down to it, only three things really matter: your faith, your fortitude, and your family. Good night” — Jim Profit

My Ninja Clan

My Ninja Clan – My Extended Family