Helsinki Vampires gives Fiero Moment #Blogg100

#056 [LVI]
Mia Törnblom on Personal Leadership [The 69 Eyes has found their confidence]

You wanna rock (rock)
Nothing’s gonna make you stop
And nothing’s gonna break you up
Everybody knows you’re lost
In the night time, honey
Lost boys

Tonight I have rocked. With The 69 Eyes. My favorite Rock band of them all. Finally they got the concert that they and we deserved here in Gothenburg. They rocked like they never done before. Maybe the have found their live confidence. They gave me a real Fiero moment!

Start with explaining a personal Why

Earlier today Mia Törnblom gave a very inspiring speech about finding you own personal confidence and motivation. She says the same thing as Simon Sinek. You have to start with explaining what each and every person stand to gain by doing something. Start explaining WHY.

Mia is also releasing a new book called “Du Säljer [You are Selling]. It almost the same as as the latest book from Daniel Pink, To Sell is Human. See my blog about Daniels talk here.

Inner strength

You must also find your Inner strength. It is like an account that you deposit positive energy. Then when when the going gets though you can withdraw the same energy. But you can not overdraw your account because that is when you start hurting yourself.

Mia Törnblom

Mia Törnblom – Fiero Moment

Reflection

You must also have time for Reflection. Do a reflection journal each day before you sleep. It’s kind like the Grateful exercise that I mention before.

Fiero Moment

You should celebrate each small victory each day with a Fiero Moment. Read some about Fiero here the way Jane McGonigal describes it. I got my Fiero moment during The 69 Eyes concert 🙂

Tweetup with United States of Tikka

Before the 69 Eyes concert, I organised  a Tweepup. There a I had a very interesting conversation about life and The Future with Katarina “United States of” Tikka @ustikka. See you at WebCoast next weekend.

@LordSillion

The 69 Eyes

The 69 Eyes

Sacrifice, Merging and Power #Blogg100

#061 [LXI]
I want us to merge [Unity]

Saw the season finale of Suits tonight. It was about Sacrifice, Merging and Power. An Awesome episode about how life should be if we humans weren’t being busy keeping things as they are.

Rachel Mike Donna

Sacrifice I have discussed before in episode #064 [LXIV] Sacrifice for the Future.

For Merging I leave you with the quote blow from Ghost in the Shell.

And Power I will discuss in tomorrows Power is Power.

Life perpetuates itself through diversity.
And this includes the ability to sacrifice itself when necessary.
Cells repeat the process of degeneration and regeneration,
until one day they die, obliterating an entire set of memory and information.
Only genes remain.
Why continually repeat this cycle?
Simply to survive by avoiding the weaknesses of an unchanging system.
And what does all this have to do with me?
— I want us to merge. — Huh? — Merge?
A unification. A complete commingling and fusion of our separate beings… — Ghost in The Shell

The Rains of Castamere

@LordSillion

How to Persuade better with Daniel Pink #Blogg100

#062 [LXII]
Life’s a pitch [How you can “Sell” and Persuade better]

Daniel Pink - Life’s a pitch

Daniel Pink – Life’s a pitch

We are constantly persuading others to use their time and resources to do things the way we want them done. How can you get better at this?

Now you can hear Daniel Pink’s event on the RSA here: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others. As before I was able to get my own question answered via Twitter:

Pink question

ABCs for persuading others

There are 3 keys in persuading others. These are the ABCs of persuasion: Attunement, Buoyancy, Clarity.

Attunement [Perspective taking]

Attunement is to bring oneself into harmony with other individuals, groups, and context. Listening to and understanding them. Mirroring back and Perspective taking.

This is when we mirror back another persons words, gestures and posture. We then end up seeing things from another person perspective. This triggers our mirror neurons in our brains and builds trust.

The most successful pitcher are the people who invite the other person in as a participate. See the pitching process as an invitation to collaborate. An invitation to give me your point of view. Pitch is a prelude to a to an engagement. The point of a pitch is to engage the other person so that you can have a continued conversation.

You must also build trust over time by befriending them.

Remembering and and saying another persons name is also great for building a relation. As my No.1 tip I say Befriend Everyone.

Lessen your power to increase it

When you feel more powerful you get worse on Perspective taking. So to increase your power you must feel less powerful and more humble.

Feelers and Thinkers

To be a successful negotiator you must ask yourself, what are they feeling. But Feelers are not the best at negotiate. Even if we like them to be. They are good, but Thinkers are even better. They are the ones who can figure out what others are interested in and what are they thinking. You must also understand that everyone has something that they hold sacred and will defended in a very irrational way.

“If you want to understand a group follow their sacredness. Wherever people sacralize something you will find: Ignorance, Blindness to the Truth and Resistance to evidence”Jonathan Haidt

Buoyancy [Ability to stay afloat]

How do you remain afloat in an Ocean of Rejection? What should you do before, during and after an encounter?

Before an encounter you should question your abilities instead of pumping yourself up. This will make you aware of your weak points and better respond to them and not make you to overconfident.

During an encounter you should use more positive words and feelings. Here you must reach the Losada Ratio. With a ratio of at least 3 to 1 on positive words over negative words, but never more tan 11 to 1. That’s where people will start thinking you are crazy.

If you want to criticize someone and want the message to get through instead of rejected. You must first reach a Losada Ratio of 5 to 1.

After an Encounter we must be good at explaining failure and learn from it. This we can do with resilience training. According to Martin Seligman and his research there are 3 ways to do this. The opposite of personal, pervasive, and permanent. That is transient, situational, and specific. I had nothing to do with me. This things happens sometimes. We can learn from the outcome and adapt to it in the future.

A failure or setback is just temporary. I can change it and this was just this one occurrence.

This also the ability to adapt to change and failure. See Eddie Obeng and Smart Failure. I discuss this more in episode #092 [XCII] Adapt, Adapt, Adapt

Martin Seligman

Martin Seligman

Clarity [Distill information]

We must be able to filter through plethora of information that is available today. The capacity to make sense of murky situations. One of the most effective ways of moving others is to uncover challenges they may not know they have. Not only solve problems but To find Opportunities where others see none. The ability look into the future and predict where a bump in the road might occur.

“Roads? Where we are going we don’t need roads!” — Dr. Emmett Brown

Utility or Curiosity

He also mentions the best way to pitch in email form. The in order for a email to be opened the subject line most speak to our curiosity or must feel useful at the moment like I described in episode #072 [LXXII] How you can affect others better.

Then Why?

Yes and what about my question on Twitter? Where did it go? Yes, why we should do something is very important. See more about Simon Sinek in my blog.

If you want to change someone behavior you should always start explaining why before you explain how to do it and what you get when it’s done. And you must explain this on a personal level for each individual. Why they should do something and what they stand to gain.

Here is another blog about Daniel Pink’s RSA talk.

@LordSillion

Cloud Atlas [Is your life a Drop in the Bucket?] #Blogg100

I have now seen Cloud Atlas several times and it is the best movie to come out in many years IMHO. The  Wachowskis did such great job not selling out to the false assumption that storytelling is just dumb entertainment. Read this Interview with them about it: The Wachowskis explain how Cloud Atlas unplugs people from the Matrix. Storytelling always has been and always will be at the heart of what it is to be human. And Cloud Atlas is a masterpiece in telling a fine story about what is important in life as I will discuss below.

Also check out why I think Storytelling is so important in my posts about Elysium and Pacific Rim

#070 [LXX]
Do our choices define us? [Agency and Kindness]

So the big question this movie asks me is:

Do our choices define us?
Or are they just a rationalization of the mind who can do nothing but apply agency to everything?

Composing is a crusade. Sometimes you slay the dragon. Sometime it slays you

Composing is a crusade. Sometimes you slay the dragon. Sometime it slays you

Life Deeds

Batou

Batou

I’ll start with a quote from my favorite character in the movie Ghost in the Shell.

“That’s all it is: information. Even a simulated experience or a dream; simultaneous reality and fantasy. Any way you look at it, all the information that a person accumulates in a lifetime is just a drop in the bucket.” — Batou, Ghost in The Shell

This is the movie that inspired the Wachowski brothers the most when making The Matrix. So here we are moving our focus right back at the latest Wachowski movie: Cloud Atlas and one of the best quotes:

“Haskell Moore: There is a natural order to this world, and those who try to upend it do not fare well. This movement will never survive, if you join them you and your entire family will be shunned. At best you will exist at pariah to be spat at and beaten, at worse to be lynched or crucified. And for what, for what, no matter what you do it will never amount to anything more than a single drop in a limitless ocean.
Adam Ewing: What is an ocean but a multitude of drops?”

All the drops in this world

A far bigger pond of Drops. And yet we get the feeling that when moving together we can create the greatest of waves. As we can see in the next 2 quotes

“Dr. Henry Goose: Our lives and our choices, each encounter, suggest a new potential direction. Yesterday my life was headed in one direction. Today, it is headed in another. Fear, belief, love, phenomena that determined the course of our lives. These forces begin long before we are born and continue long after we perish. Yesterday, I believe I would have never have done what I did today. I feel like something important has happened to me. Is this possible?

“The nature of our immortal lives is in the consequences of our words and deeds, that go on and are pushing themselves throughout all time. Our lives are not our own, from womb to tomb, we’re bound to others. Past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” — Sonmi-451

Your whole life is just a Story [From Womb to Tomb]

Weeeee. I just love this kind of Stories and what they carry with them to me 🙂
And why is it that so many movie critics and reviewers often seem to forget that it’s all about the Storytelling.
I blog more about the importance of storytelling in: Engage in Storytelling and This is Your Story. And that all your brain experiences of the world from “from womb to tomb” is just stories.

“Some say to believe in destiny is to dismiss the role of free will.
That Self-determination cannot prevail in the presence of fate.
When the Truth is, the only part of destiny we can control,
is the fate we choose for another.” — Emily Thorn, Revenge

Emily Thorne

Emily Thorne

I think that we must be kind to each others in our choices and in our actions. Kindness will ripple through the Networked society and just maybe, just maybe, it will conquer Greed and Corruption. At least it is a Crusade worth going on. An Epic Quest to be proud of.

Now you must continue to make your choices and tell your story. And remember that you do not make your choices nor tell your story alone. You do this together with others.

@LordSillion
Holistic Thinking Ninja

How you can affect others better #Blogg100

#072 [LXXII]
Just smile and wave [Utility or Curiosity]

Just smile and wave boys. Smile and wave!

Just smile and wave boys. Smile and wave!

Check out all my Posts on Daniel Pink for the complete analysis of his talk and book 🙂

Also Check out all 3 videos from Simon Sinek in my blog.

2 tips for the day is listen to this Interview with Daniel Pink: Why We’re All in Sales. I got the tip from NiclasJ. You can also find it as a podcast if you search for: HBR Ideacast. You can also here him live on The RSA next Tuesday on The Surprising Truth About Moving Others. If you want to tweet him a live question 🙂

Utility or Curiosity

In the end he tells what 2 email subjects that works best. Kind of like a pitch. They are:
1. Utility
2. Curiosity

And you can’t mix them. Does it fall into what Simon Sinek says about “Start with why“? Does this mean I should start with why this will make you do something better?

Also TED on Facebook tipped of 9 great speeches about happiness. Check out the last one about smiling!

Remember to smile. Just smile and wave!

Michael Sillion [LordSillion]

Blog loving #Blogg100

#075 [LXXV]
Varför skriver du? [Why do you write?]

Blog Lovin

Feffe Kaufmann fågar: Varför bloggar du? i sin blog: 5 anledningar att blogga #blogg100

Ja, varför bloggar jag?

Jag svarar:

Min första Blogg skrev jag som en handbok för mig själv. Efterhand som jag lärde mig nya saker om världen i de böcker läste och föreläsningar jag såg. Bloggade jag om det för att få med det viktigaste.
A Sustainable Future with Co-Op

Sen i december bestämde jag mig för att skriv ihop 28 korta små tips för att leva ett bättre liv. Den kom upp på 21 innan jag började med #Blogg100. men jag ska fortsätta snart igen.
28 ways to get a better life

Nu i #Blogg100 blev det mer personligt om mitt nya liv och det som jag vill jobba med 🙂
The Spring is my Love

Blogg loving

Idag började jag skriva på 2 andra poster men blev sittandes läsande andras bloggar istället.
Så idag tipsar jag om lite andra inlägg som jag tyckte var intressanta i #Blogg100 utmaningen.

Maria Sjögren @molbimien skriver om att utforska världen med lek. The only way to learn.
Att forska, är att leka, är att forska

Sofia Mirjamsdotter @mymlan har sett TBK AFK filmen. Vilket jag med ska ta och göra imorgon.

Rebecca Allen Lamptey tipsar om House of Cards
Did you think I forgot about you? And why House of Cards is on my mind.

Camilla Erkisson, Magnus Höij och MiROi Varmland pratar alla om konsten att prata. Detta var extra intressant eftersom vi i bilen hem från Göteborg inatt. Peppade Samuel som skulle hålla ett tal för att bli vald som Sveroks Västs nya ordförande. Hoppas det gick bra.

Lärdomar från The King’s Speech
Årets talare – så kan du bli som Stefan Hyttfors
Du behöver inte säga ett ord!

Twitter FTW

Brit Stakston har alltid något intressant att säga.
Är Twitter en seger för mänskligheten?

Ja! Twitter är definitivt en av mänsklighetens stora bedrifter hitintills. Men det är bara börja på nätverkssamhället!

It’s always today, today and today

Johan Ronnestam asks 2 questions. One wrong and one right in:
The most worthless question and the question to die for!
What are you doing tomorrow?
What are you doing today?

Sanasi frågar: Vart är vi på väg?

2 frågor som jag jag ska behandla i veckan i ett av mina påbörjade inlägg 🙂

Helena Roth @HERO_Respondi skriver om Släng upp händerna i luften samtidigt som du glatt utbrister ”How fascinating!”.

Anna Olsson skriver om sin session på SSMX
Opinionsarbete i sociala medier 2013 – är det kört?

Thomas ConraDargo Engström skriver om det mysiga spelet Mice & Mystics

Agent Stefan Wallner är inte med i #Blogg100 men skriver ändå intressant om förändring:
Hatar du förändring?

Här är lite mer om förändring och inlärning. How Serious Are We About Learning?

Tillägg

Jimmy Mannung @mannung undrar När ska sveriges riksdag börja ta zombiefrågan på allvar?

 

 

@LordSillion

Social Bonding #Blogg100

#076 [LXXVI]
Playing games face to face together [Spela spel ihop, ansikte mot ansikte]

Idag har vi varit ett stort gäng på Sverok Västs lokal Spelets hus i Göteborg och spelat brädspel. Denna livsstil som ligger mig varmast om hjärtat. Som jag håller som min heliga grej. Är väldigt social och varmt välkomnande. Alla som kommer dit blir varmt motagna. Man parar ihop sig i grupper och spelar del olika typer av spel som passar en. Jag är där med några av mina äldsta och bästa vänner. Det är verkligen som Jane McGonigal säger.

När man spelar spel ihop uppstår en fantastisk social bonding.

Idag blev det 4 av mina nya favoritspel. Terra Mystica, Spartacus, Key Flower och Clash of Cultures. 2 stora gäng ville prova att spela det gamla spelet Diplomacy från 1959. Ett bräde var överens om att det kändes som ett väldig gammalt spel. Idag känns Imperial och Game of Thrones mycket bättre i denna kategorin. Många brädspelare där är med i föreningen GoBo.

@LordSillion

LordSillion, Champ, Samuel och Ölme

LordSillion, Champ, Samuel och Ölme spelar Clash of Cultures

2 Bräden Diplpomacy

2 Bräden Diplpomacy

Final standing in Terra Mystica 139 Darklings, 125, Dwarfs, 94 Swarmlings

Final standing in Terra Mystica 139 Darklings, 125, Dwarfs, 94 Swarmlings

KeyFlower

Logistik-pussel är bara förnamnet i KeyFlower

Blood and Backstabbing in Spartacus

Blood and Backstabbing in Spartacus